Kaleidoscope 22/40: How Will I Remeber?

Kaleidoscope 22/40: How Will I Remeber?
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Welcome to 2024!

On this day, many are waking up hung over... many are dreaming of a completely changed (unrealistic) version of themselves... and others are like, resolutions, no way, so cliche!

Most people, at some point, make new year's resolutions.

Yet almost all resolution fail, almost immediately. Why?

Well, today, I want to ask a question that may help us think about resolutions a little differently:

How Will I Remember What I Want?

When I was in my early 20's I attended a workshop by Charles Eisenstein. While I've forgotten most of it, at one of our meals, Charles said something that completely stuck with me. Loosely paraphrased:

I make myself rules when I am my best and highest self, so that I can remember to live up to my own standards, even when I'm not at my best.

I think he was referring to eating vegan & unprocessed foods — but, honestly, I'm not 100% sure.

This idea — of remembering what my best self wants for me — is powerful.

It's strange that we would have to actively remember what we want... but I know I'm not alone in struggling with the day-to-day realities of being human:

Of snapping at someone because I'm tired.
Of yelling at myself because of some silly misstep.
Of one-too-many glasses of wine when I'm feeling stressed out.

I also know that the best version of myself wouldn't choose any of those things.

The question becomes how do I keep that best version of myself in mind, even when I'm not at my best?

For Charles, he liked to use rules.
Some love new years resolutions.
Some use identity.
One of my personal favorites is to use talisman.

I use all of these strategies to varying levels of success.

And when I fail, its often its because in an all-too-human moment, I forgot what I really wanted.

Other times, I kind of remember it — like, I can parrot the words to you, I can tell you what it is that I want, but I can't feel it, I can't connect with the thing that I really want.

That is my challenge — How can I remember, viscerally?

So I invite you, along with me, to look ahead to the inevitable struggles and challenges to live up to your best self's standards, and ask yourself how you will overcome.

Here's to 2024 and remembering exactly what it is that we want.

Until tomorrow,